Back in the 1980′s, country singer Randy Travis had a hit song called’Is it Still Over?’ It’s a great song about what happens after a breakup…sometimes.
The chorus goes a little something like this:
‘Is it still over; are we still through?
Since my phone still ain’t ringin’
I assume it still ain’t you.
I’ve half the mind to take the time to find somebody new;
But, I’m not too sure that I’m still over you.’
No matter who wanted the breakup to begin with, regrets are very common in the aftermath. Sometimes that regret leads one or the other person to try and work things out.
Are you asking ‘Is it still over?’ Did you know that it is possible to patch up the bumps and bruises on your broken heart and start over? It’s true. The good news is that if you’re having these doubts about your feelings or facing uncertainty about whether or not you’re ‘still’ over your ex the odds are good that your ex may be experiencing similar feelings of her own.
So, what can you do to get her back?
Start Over at the Beginning
A lot of guys try to pick things up right where you left off. That doesn’t work. Where you left off was a bad place to be. You want to go back to the beginning. You want to erase the bad and start over with a clean slate.
This means that you need to adjust your strategy. Begin with introductions. Make your introduction one that is witty, funny, clever, and sure to get her attention (not to mention start the thawing process of her heart).
Don’t go all in for the big finish at first. Work up to it. Instead of asking for dinner and a movie, or even just dinner, start small. Ask her if she’ll meet you for coffee.
A girl can feel a lot of pressure over dinner. Coffee is small. It’s simple. It’s non-committal. It gives her an opportunity to make a hasty exit if it doesn’t feel right once she arrives. More importantly, it gives her few excuses (unless, of course, she doesn’t drink coffee) to say no.
Don’t Attach Strings
Don’t make her feel like you’re pulling strings. Be honest and up front. You can let her know that you want to win her back. Let her know that you believe your relationship had many more better days than worse and that it can have those ‘better’ days again. But don’t make her feel like you’re attaching strings to every conversation or encounter the two of you have.
Let it be Her Idea
Women are famous for changing their minds. They enjoy the ability to change their mind on a whim. They do not EVER like to feel as though they are being talked into something against their will.
If you really want to be successful in your attempt to get your ex then you’re going to need to figure out how to make her believe that getting back together is her idea. Watch this FREE video for a creative and inspiring plan that just might help you find the same success it’s helped over 50,000 people like you find already. You might have her back in your arms in no time.
