Who hasn?t been in the situation where a complete stranger walks into a room
full of people and within seconds all eyes were on him or her and conversation
has all but halted?

And as soon as this person opens their mouth and utters the first words, the
fascination reaches a fever-pitch and a palpable sense of magnetism exists
between this person and others in the room. You can be this way too. Here are 5
tips to help.

Secret No. 1 Make it About Others

We often tend to look at communication with others from our very own unique
?I? perspective. And if you experience the fear of public speaking, you?re more
likely to focus on yourself as you notice your worried thoughts and
feelings.

The most effective communication occurs when we consider the other side?s,
our audience?s, unique perspective and hear and see our communication through
their ears, eyes and unique perceptional filters. In short, learn everything
about your audience?s perceptual modes and communicate with them in the way they
prefer. Only then can you truly tailor your communication to their specific
objectives and land your message.

Secret No. 2 Knowledge is Sexy

It?s great when you can speak about many topics and have a basic
understanding of pop culture, current events and what is generally making the
evening news. But those who have a deep knowledge about a particular field, true
experts, are projecting particularly powerful magnetism to others. When you look
at your own industry or profession, see what you can do to truly become an
expert in your field. One who could withstand the scrutiny of other experts in
your field during debate and provide unique angles and perspectives that can
only be known to someone who knows their field inside and out.

Secret No. 3 Listen Up

People who are perceived as magnetic are often excellent listeners. They
listen with their entire being and give vocal and nonverbal feedback that they
are listening?whether it is a nod, a smile, a slight cocking or tilting of the
head, squinting of the eyes, or grunting approval, wonder, amazement or dismay.
Whatever it is there is always something coming back from a good listener. Good
listeners also clarify without interrupting when they look for better
understanding of what you said.

Eye contact is critical as well, as we ?look? to understand someone, not just
?listen?. The more engaged you come across the more your magnetism you will
exude to your communication partners.

Secret No. 4 Tell a Good Story

A story does what facts and statistics never can: it inspires and it
motivates. That’s why expert storytellers are such effective and magnetic
communicators. They translate complex ideas into practical examples laced with
strong emotional connections. People tune in because they see themselves and the
storyteller’s personality woven into the story.

Storytelling is a time-tested way of establishing trust and rapport, and of
cementing collaborative behaviors. It’s also a powerful teaching tool. The story
paints a more vivid picture of the world than columns of numbers or facts can.
And it does so in a way that’s more likely to inspire and motivate those who
hear it.

Secret No. 5 Remember People?s Names

It?s classic advice you?ve undoubtedly heard many times. How do you fare when
it comes to remembering people?s names after you?ve just met them, be it at a
business gathering or a social event?

If you have trouble remembering names, try using mnemonic devices like
combining someone?s last name with a color characteristic a person displays. For
instance, Mr. Brown may have brown hair, or wear brown shoes. Actively make that
association in your mind and the next time you see Mr. Brown, you?ll remember
his name by looking at his hair or his shoes, even if he?s wearing a different
color.

The key is to associate an object, concept, idea or event with the person?s
name so that the moment you run into them the ?thing? you?ve associated with
them enters your mind.

Now that you know how to project magnetic confidence, enjoy the benefits
you?ll receive in your personal and professional lives.