Self-esteem is the determining factor for your success in any endeavor in life. What you end up doing in life and how you perform all depend on your self-esteem. Self-esteem refers to what you think of yourself. If you have high self-esteem, that means you are sure of your abilities to complete any task successfully. A high self-esteem ensures your success to a great extent. On the other hand, there are some people who do not trust themselves. Such people are symptomatic of low self- esteem.

The signs of low self-esteem are difficult to notice in yourself. However, other people around you can quickly notice these signs. So, to be able to check yourself before you fall prey to self-esteem, let us give you some of the conditions that lead to low self-esteem.

You reach that stage where you think nothing of yourself. You stay quiet for the fear of being termed inadequate. You yourself feel that you are worth nothing and will not be able to complete any work given to you. Although there are times when you feel your life is capable of doing anything it attempts, yet you lose confidence in your abilities very quickly.

Low self-esteem deters you achieving anything in your life as it always holds you back. If you have low self-esteem, something you would otherwise do very easily would also become an arduous task. Thus, you will not be able to accomplish anything phenomenal. It is very important to root out this low self- esteem from your life so that you can really progress in life.

Low self-esteem is not something a person is born with. It is in fact the repercussion of the hardships one has faced in life. There are times when certain events take place in your life and they result in your losing confidence in yourself. Usually these events are such that they invoke some trauma and stay with you for life. So every time you remember them, you lose your self-esteem a little and eventually end up with low self-esteem.

If at a time in your life you have been humiliated in front of many people or even an important decision gone wrong, which has caused you to forfeit something important or dear to you, you are likely to bear the effects of it all your life in the form of low self-esteem. When one is born, they neither have high self-esteem, nor a low one. It is the experiences one undergoes in life that determine this fact.

One big mistake people make is when they equate loss of self-esteem to something that is irreparable. However, it is not impossible to regain your self-esteem. You can transform the root cause of this low self-esteem into an impetus for your growth by changing that negative experience into a nice one.

You must change these bad memories into productive ones so that whenever you remember them or experience something similar, you are not left harassed by your negative feelings and the feeling of low self-confidence.

It is essential for your well-being, to protect your self-confidence. Even your children must be taught the ability to save their self-esteem. The confidence to face each and every day head-on must be inculcated in them. Otherwise, their low self-esteem will undermine them as a person and will forever hamper their growth.

You will never be able to display your fullest potential if you have low self-esteem. It is possible to overcome this feeling of low self-esteem and you should make an attempt towards it as quickly as possible. Otherwise, you will only be left wondering all your life, what all you could have done.

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Low self esteem can begin to develop early in childhood, long before the concept is even understood by the child. Most of the traits underlying our personality are developed in early childhood. This means that a child with feelings of low self esteem is likely to carry them into adulthood without realizing it.

A child with low self esteem needs help to realize that not everything is his or her fault. He or she needs to understand that no person can succeed all the time, that perfection is an ideal and not a goal. However, that does not mean that such a child cannot attain spectacular success in life provided he/she is given the right guidance and motivation.

Low self esteem affects a child in many negative ways:-

1) Becoming an Over-Achiever – Some parents may find this prospect as something to cheer about but be assured that prodding your child to get high grades all the time does not equal good parenting. Children with low self esteem often becomes over achievers because they feel inadequate and think that they will receive love and respect only as long as they keep maintaining their high levels of performance.

2) Addiction – Drug addiction, smoking and alcoholism are the most common signs of a child with low self esteem. Such children often turn to drugs and alcohol in order to cover up what they feel are their inadequacies. Children with low self esteem often build a fantasy world in order to feel better about themselves.

3) Vulnerable to Peer Pressure – A child with low self esteem is often susceptible to peer pressure. In their search for acceptance and attention and to avoid becoming victims of bullying, they tend to cave in to pressures from the “in” groups in order to belong to a clique that is viewed as being “cool”, even if it means indulging in unacceptable behavior.

4) Depression – Feelings of being unloved, worthlessness and alienation are a constant in children of low self esteem. They are often depressed and unable to express their feelings due to embarrassment or shame. Depression in children can manifest itself chiefly through Eating Disorders, Suicide or Hypochondria.

a) Eating Disorders – By now the terms- bulimia and anorexia – have become part of daily conversation. However, despite the awareness of these conditions by the public at large, very few realize the extent of self loathing that must exist in a person for him/her to embark on an act so contrary to the human impulse of protecting self from harm.

b) Suicide – Suicide rates among young people have been increasing steadily over the years and the constant pressure by parents, schools, peer groups and society in general to strive for and achieve higher and higher goals is difficult enough for a well adjusted child. For one with low self esteem, this can be intolerable.

c) Hypochondria – A craving for attention is a characteristic trait of those suffering from low self esteem and what better way to achieve this than by claiming to be suffering from a myriad of diseases. The fact that no one believes them after a time merely confirms their idea of themselves as being worthless and so they either look for other gullible audience or increase the symptoms of their imagined illnesses. In extreme cases, they have even been known to inflict bodily harm on themselves in order to get the attention they so desperately seek.

Why is it so urgent that people help a child with low self esteem? A problem like this is much easier to overcome right at the beginning. For one thing, convincing an adult that he or she has low self esteem could be very hard. Moreover, childhood is the training ground where the adult is molded and shaped. Surely it is our duty as adults to make sure that we do all we can to ensure that the generation following us is equipped, not just on a physical and intellectual level but emotionally and psychologically as well, to face the challenges of their age.

by Naresh Belliyappa
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This is your gentle reminder of your continuing work on your self-esteem, and positive self-image. You really have started on a path of “healing from your source”. Everyday we have opportunities to bring in positive thoughts and messages about ourselves and our lives; We just have to learn how to be conscious and aware of these opportunities.

The purpose of this message is to bring to you an affirmation/meditation that you can utilize throughout your day, and throughout the week so that your thoughts, your energy and ultimately, your feelings about yourself become more positive and your life will reflect these changes. Remember, you really are “Well Within”; you are simply accessing it consciously now.

This week we are focusing on Loving Yourself.

I am not talking about egotistical love. I am talking about the kind of love that is compassionate, understanding, and nonjudgmental. The kind of love we all look for in life; the kind of love we all wished for as children growing up; the kind of love we hope we’re giving to our children and people closest to us. I am talking about the kind of love that is unconditional; that feels warm and tender and safe and secure within our hearts and souls. So, what does it mean to love yourself this way? Loving yourself stems from the belief that “Who I am is enough”; that the qualities I possess as a person are worthwhile, special, and unique. This is the center of what it means to love yourself. The question everyone always asks is: “Yes, but how do I get there?!” Allow yourself to take a slow deep breath, in through your nose, and release gently with a sigh through your mouth. — As you feel your body relax and become open to receiving a new message, I want you to picture yourself. Imagine that you are looking at yourself in the mirror. — Who do you see? — (Not what do you see?) Let your judgments pass by (you know the ones I mean: I’m too fat, or my hair needs washing, or I look tired, or old or I have too many wrinkles, or I need a hair cut.—) Just allow these judgments to pass by. Breathe in and out slowly and deeply— and look again at yourself in your mind’s eye. Now see who you really are. Focus on your inner qualities. Are you a good friend, a good listener, kind, understanding, compassionate and caring to others, sensitive, witty, fun to be with, someone who enjoys a good laugh, someone who is helpful, intelligent, a hard worker, reliable, etc. You know what I’m talking about.

Maybe it will help to think about your best friend, (or spouse, or close family member, or your spiritual leader, or colleague) and what you like and admire in him/her. What would this person say that they like about you? What makes you their best friend, &/or special in their lives? Stop for a moment and really allow yourself to ponder this thought. Take another deep breath and sit with what these qualities are. If you are struggling with this part, please, take a break from reading this and pick up the phone and call this person and ask him/her to tell you what they love about you. Let yourself hear what they have to say. Write down the qualities that they tell you. Look at the messages and allow yourself to breathe them into your body, your mind and your soul. You know the words are true because they feel so good. Please, admit it to yourself that way down deep inside you, you enjoy knowing these qualities that you possess feel good to you, because you know they are true. Let the good feelings flow through you and around you. Take a deep breath and picture yourself in the mirror once again, and allow yourself to REALLY see who you are! That’s it, breathe and stay with this warm, loving feeling. Take a deep breath and say: “I am lovable, capable, worthwhile and special and I deserve to be treated as such, by myself & others in my life!”

Take another deep breathe and really let the message sink in. Say this statement again allowing yourself to breathe in slowly and deeply and feel where it goes in your body. “I am lovable, capable, worthwhile and special and I deserve to be treated as such, by myself & others in my life!” Does it flow freely or does it get stuck. Just breathe— and repeat the statement again, out loud. Hear the words resonate in your room, not just in your head. This is a statement, along with “Who I am is enough!” that must repeated over and over again as you go through your days and your week. Finding your self-esteem and bringing it forth is what this work is all about, and we’ll journey together as you uncover and discover how lovable you really are!

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Confidence and self esteem are two such ingredients which every woman wants in her man. Self esteem is a perfect indication of strength, honesty and commitment which every woman desperately demands in her man. But the main question is how to maintain a strong self esteem around women? Well it might not be easy but it’s also not hard at the same time if you know what you need to do. Read on to discover some of the most mind blowing ways no how to maintain a strong self esteem around women and achieve stunning results within no time.

Stop thinking about competition- This is probably one of the major reasons why most men have a low self esteem around women. You see we feel low when we see other people around us who are doing better than us. Therefore the best way to deal with this is not to think about people around you and only focus on yourself. Learn to compete with yourself and not with other people.

Value yourself- Another reason why most guys have a low self esteem is simply due to the fact that they tend to think they have a little or no value. The very first thing you need to do is to learn how to respect yourself and how to value yourself as this is how you would earn the respect of other people. How can you expect someone else to respect you unless you respect yourself.

Be someone who does not watches- Most men tend to sit within the crowd and watch other people achieve great things. So you are actually watching other people achieve their dreams instead of working on your own. Learn to be the one who takes action and makes other people watch. Women prefer guys who do it instead of watching other people do it.

What you don’t know yet- Ever tried to wonder what’s in a woman’s mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Do you know there are some secrets women don’t want men to know but men absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women? Read on to discover some of the most “Shocking Secrets” women don’t want men to know- 9 Most Shocking Secrets Women don’t want men to know