Everyday we face stress in our life. Be it in our family or work. And this stress always does the same physical, mental and emotional exhaustion to our body. How do we face stress? Let us learn the 5 easy steps we can apply to solve this problem.
1. Keep a journal. As you go to bed at night, jot down all the positive things that have happened in your life. Count your blessings not your frustrations. Write them down in your notepad to remind yourself that not all bad things happen in your life. You may also write on your journal some names of people you would wish to thank for their help. This ritual is quite effective as they help you to remain control and maintain a calm environment before you go to bed. By doing such, you will definitely have a restful and undisturbed sleep.
2. Go out and exercise. Studies have shown that exercise is a great factor in reducing stress in our body. It relieves stress by releasing feel-good brain chemicals that reduces immune system chemical that worsens depression. This reduction in chemicals increase the body temperature thereby helping build and gain self-confidence and throwing away all worries and fears that are running inside your mind. Making exercise a habit is really helpful when reducing stress.
3. Be with positive people. When we felt stressed out, we confine ourselves within our room which is not a good stress management at all. This will only lead you to keep thinking about something that might have caused the problem over and over again. Go out and join your friends. But be sure to call those ones whom you know are supportive of your needs. Be with someone whom you know values your existence. Be with people whom you know that will listen to you eagerly and can give you positive key points on how to deal with such problem. And when you do, ponder on the things they have taught on you.
4. Learn some meditation techniques. Yoga has been one of the most used meditation techniques to reduce stress. Most yoga followers’ report reduction in stress whenever they do such activity. Learn some meditation techniques to combat stress. 5 minutes is not bad enough to meditate. Meditation will return your focus on your problems as well as to find solutions on them. Take time to meditate and you will surely reap what you sow
Another way to reduce stress is to go out on camping trips. I really enjoy going out on a camping trip and use my favorite 4 seasons tent. I always love to buy 4 season tent as they are durable enough to keep me protected during my camping trips. It’s a must have for every campers out there and especially to those who plans to going out on a camping trips sooner or later.
The following is step-by-step information to curl hair with a flat iron.
Products Required
Blow dryer usage of ionic or ceramic is best to lessen damage and dry time.
Comb: professional combs have no seams tending to break hair.
Thermal Protectant and Styling product
Clips: use jaw clips since they can hold large amounts of hair safely.
Flat iron: opt for one with rounded plates having smooth strands of hair and ceramic plates to close.
Today, a number of customers opt for ceramic flat irons because they generate smooth, far infrared ionic heat that won’t spoil your hair and can assist fix spoiled follicles.
Using flat iron
At first, arrange the hair for twisting. For this, wet the hair. Since excess wet prevents hair from holding style, dry your hair before applying flat iron. For less heat damage , let hair dry usually or blow dry thoroughly . Use thermal guard to wet hair. Right before applying heat, spray a heat defense on the dry hair.
To take away any mesh, comb hair gently . Clip top hair with jaw clips and leave the remaining bottom in a edge around the head. Take a horizontal or vertical part of hair and spray lightly with a thermal protectant. Then clamp the flat iron close to the scalp and draw iron half a full turn. Turn iron away from head if using a horizontal segment of hair. If using a vertical section, move iron in either direction. Until ends of the hair slip through the iron’s plates, gently pull the iron through the entire length of hair. The slower the iron is pulled, the stronger the curl will be. If you pull the iron through fast, it will create loose bends and curls. Ensure that the iron is dragged right through ends or hair segments will be curly with an inch of straight hair at the bottom. Before styling further or re-curling hair, stay for hair to cool. Trying to re-curl the warm hair won’t work. In the same way, trying to add style products or accessories to warm hair will cause the curl to droop and loosen.
Comb your hair with your fingers or a wide-toothed comb, before and after each pass of the flat iron. Let a pinned hair down every time a edge is flattened. Do again all steps until all hair has been curled.
Curling your hair using a ceramic hair straightener is really quite easy . If you are in search of a flat iron to curl your hair, then surely find one that has ceramic plating.
With the start of a new year, how about setting a goal, as one of your main goals, to boost your self esteem? The reason why I am suggesting this is because when you feel good about yourself, you are more confident in your own abilities to achieve whatever you want. The greater your self confidence is, the more successful you are likely to be in the rest of the goals that you set for yourself.
Do you find yourself having such thoughts often?
1. I can’t do anything.
2. I will never be good at it anyway; no matter how hard I try.
3. I’m born unlucky.
4. No one believes I can do this.
5. I’m no good at doing this task.
6. Others are brighter than me.
7. I am stupid.
8. I will never be as good as somebody else.
If you do, then be aware that these thoughts are doing you no good. How you feel about yourself is based on the person you think you are. You can have positive beliefs that strengthens you or negative beliefs that tear you down. A weak sense of identity invariably results in a poor attitude, difficulty in assertiveness and an inability to cope well under stress.
When you do goal setting, you need to be able to visualize that you are able to achieve your goals. You do not want to set goals that are too easy nor would you want to set goals that you do not feel possible to achieve. You must believe that you can have all that you need to make your goals a reality. Unfortunately, if you have a low self esteem, your negative subconscious thinking will sabotage your intent in reaching your goals.
With a low self esteem, you will find that you tend to give up easily, every time when you hit upon challenges along the way. Nothing is ever one hundred smooth. How you deal with challenges depends very much on your attitude. If you start to question your abilities, you are unlikely to be able to succeed.
So it is best that you find ways to boost your self esteem first. If you make a commitment in addressing your low feelings about yourself, then achieving your other goals will be much easier.
A strong self confidence can be nurtured in a child and encouraged by parents and caregivers. When children feel good about who they are and what they can achieve; they grow up to be confident, happy adults who believe in what they can do to improve themselves.
However, it is never too late to work on building good self-esteem. Hence, for goal setting this year, make it a point to include this as one of your aims. Make a note to give yourself credit for every little achievement or success that you achieve. Celebrate your wins! Take time off to nurture yourself and know that you deserve it!
by Evelyn Lim
Evelyn Lim publishes tips about using self help tools for the law of attraction to work. She strongly advocates wealth consciousness in favor over poverty consciousness, for overall success. For more of her articles, please visit http://www.AttractionMindMap.com
Remember Teri Hatcher doing those impossible splits right on the studio floor on Oprah? Or Carmen Electra positively gushing about what exotic dance has done for her body and bedroom tactics? A large number of celebrities have recently taken to a sexy alternative to working out, from pole vaulting they have leapt straight to pole dancing at the S Factor. And they aren’t stopping at pole-dancing, our celebrity pin-up girls have been everywhere and done everything, from Strip-Aerobics to Exotic Dance Work Outs, the motto this season is ‘Everything sexy goes’!
If all this sudden gush for sex is making you blush, you go ahead and click your tongue and hang your head in shame, no one will begrudge you. “SEX SELLS” and we are being sold it morning, noon and night through every possible channel. It screams at you from gigantic billboards featuring gorgeous demi-love-gods, pierces into your fantasy’s through the television and fondles your imagination with semi-naked bodies scattered all over the net. Living in the USA is in itself like one giant, prolonged orgasm…and as a woman you are expected to idolize those models and endeavor to look like one.
Sure you wanna be Carrie from ‘Sex and the City’ and moan and groan and roll around on your bed with a different guy every night, seven nights a week turning your life into a series of fantastic sexual escapades….but you’ll snap out of it, after all life is not a TV show, and learning how to embrace your sexuality takes time and effort.
In America amongst the glamour of the TV shows and the supposed sexual abandonment, the skin and the G-Strings, we women have to deal with mixed messages, guilt trips, religious dogma, body image, and misinformation. Sure getting your hymen snapped by 16 is a must, but so is regretting doing it by 25. Beneath all our external frills, getting laid is an issue we women deal with badly.
The concept of ‘Positive Sex’ is an idea not many of us have managed to fathom yet. Fornication is still, essentially a male domain, where we women participate like whimpering goats, hesitating and interestingly enough feeling insecure about our role in it all.
A majority of women I know swear by making love in the dark. ‘It’s romantic’ they coo when I ask them the point of that. Here’s what I KNOW, most of us are ashamed of our body. Nudity is a concept we haven’t been taught to handle well. Seeing ourselves naked freaks us out, and knowing that someone else is watching us naked, desiring our body for itself, brings to life our worst fears. This is the gaze our parents warned us against, this is what Church lessons have told us to avoid. So off goes the light, plunging everything, from ourselves, to that desirous gaze, to our insecurities, into comforting darkness.
The truth is that the darkness serves as a warm invitation to what Susan Bremer calls our ‘Shadow” side. ‘Every woman wants to take a trip to their wild side” she explains, ‘We all yearn to seduce. But we’ve been told over and over again that to rejoice in our body is immoral, yet the wish to feel powerful in our sensuality, to express our sexuality remains.” Susan, a proud ‘Gentleman club’ dancer considers her sexual prowess to be her way of establishing her role in a world hounded by men. “When I’m at work,” she says “I’m surrounded by men in coats and ties — bosses and underlings, jocks and nerds. All of them are the kinds of men who made me feel small. But now I can reduce the top dog to a lapdog by staring at him, opening my top, and smiling”.
This sense of power probably needs some delving into. As women all of us suffer from our own insecurities. It’s a cliché by now but we all know that the world belongs to the testosterone thugs. They keep us down everywhere, be it in our boardroom or our bedroom. And slowly we grow used to being kept down, such that we soon we are conditioned to not reversing the situation at all.
A positive sex-image, whether you use it or not, can and will alter all this most miraculously. Your sexual achievements in the bedroom can give you the kind of omnipotent confidence which oozes out from your personal to public sphere. For any woman with low self-esteem, the act of embracing your sexuality serves as a miracle tool for believing that she can have that effect on other people, in a non-sexual environment too.
The thing is, much as we try to shake it off, we are all sexual beings, sex is important to us and it has the power to make us feel good. 65% of women in the US do not, at their heart of hearts, take this idea seriously. Good sex and an attempt to have good sex for them is still a nudge-nudge-whisper-whisper issue. This attitude gets transferred from them to their kids and grandkids and so on, such that each generation of these young women grow up with the idea that every time they are making love they ought to feel guilty about it. This mystifying of the subject is harmful for a lot of reasons. For starters it gives us a lifelong baggage of guilt, every time we think about sex, every time we fantasize or our hands itch to masturbate we feel like a criminal. The constant feeling that sex is wrong or dirty leads to a negative self-image as a person. That misinformation means that when we are in the act it can be hard to enjoy it, leading to severe sexual frustration, not a feeling you’d like to carry around with you.
This discussion might go on and on, because of our trouble to face the fact that we like getting laid. But let’s just say, it all has a very easy solution. Get in to your sexiest lacy underwear, devote tonight to unleashing the temptress in you and for once really enjoy it without hang-ups. You will like the results tomorrow morning.
by Adryenn Ashley
A provocative, ambitious, and engaging producer, Adryenn Ashley has taken the independent film community by storm with groundbreaking documentary and feature projects. She has never been shy about tackling a hard subject or a controversial fire storm.
When Ashley’s early acting career was cut short by an injury, the tenacious Northern Californian stayed in the game seeking original independent projects to produce. Her first feature, “Metal”, was shot in just 8 days in the rough neighborhood of Hunter’s Point, San Francisco. Ashley’s production of this gritty and dramatic portrayal of a poor black family in turmoil went on to receive stellar reviews and awards at festivals worldwide. It premiered, and was a critical favorite, at the Mill Valley Film Festival, won the Jury Prize at the Pan African Film Festival, and Best Picture at the Seattle Underground Film Festival.
With a whet appetite for juicy projects, Ashley is presently in post-production on Felicia Giouzelias’ film “My Sexuality”, a documentary exploring the relationship between a woman’s self-esteem and her view of her sexual-self. A heartwarming and fun glimpse into the transformation of 5 average women into sexy vixens through classes and make-overs, Ashley is sure to win over audiences with this witty and intelligent project.
At present, Ashley has four features in pre-production with her company, 21st Century Pictures Group, and is venturing back in front of the camera for three acting roles in 2007. In between movies Ashley is starting her book series, “Every Girls Guide To…”.