Confidence is something that comes from the inside and evolves with each small step you take. If I had a quarter for everyone who came to me wanting confidence, I would be wealthy. Think for a moment about learning to walk. While you are not likely to remember that moment, you as a parent certainly remember your child’s first steps. Your child was congratulated and cheered for each step. It never entered his mind to give up if he fell. And it never enters parents’ minds to criticize the child for falling. He is encouraged to get back up and do it again. That child then develops the confidence to continue walking. What keeps you from accepting what you do well on a regular basis and maintaining your levels of confidence? What follows are seven areas you might consider.

1. Get rid of your self-critic
We are all taught to be analytical and critical by parents, teachers, and colleagues. However the more self-critical you are, the less chance of coming in touch with your intuition and creativity. That voice in your head needs discipline. Do not let it become your boss.

2. Improve your Physical Presence
How you stand is important for your image, voice, health and energy.
Take time out for yourself. This is something business people and women, in general, seem to think is not important. It is very difficult to give to others from an empty space inside. When you take care of yourself, you take much better care of others. Your well-being is important to you, your family and your colleagues. Begin by standing and sitting as if you are energized-or at least fake until you make it. Your energy is contagious.

3. Work on your communication skills
Is your message clear-or are you giving double messages unknowingly?
Good communications skills rarely are taught. You learn them from parents, teachers, and peers. In doing so, you develop habits you do not know you have. Therefore it is a shock when you learn that others do not get your message. Unless there is a balance between your visible actions, your voice quality and the words you speak, you stand a good change of not being “heard”. Your non-verbal communication is as much as 85% or more. 99% of my clients put all their attention on the words-until they see themselves on video and find out what others have known all along.

4. Listen fully and with a non-judgmental mind
Blank your ‘computer screen’ and let others write on it. You can decide what to keep later-and push the “delete” button. Give everyone a chance to be heard before you jump into the conversation or discussion. Turn off that internal radio for just a few minutes. You colleagues will appreciate you so much for your ability to listen.

5. Learn how to say what you feel without blaming others.

Criticism can easily be handled if you speak to the problem or issue without bringing personalities or emotions into it. Make an effort to define the problem or issue. When you speak about the problem, you are neither taking, nor giving blame and you are leaving personal issues aside. It is then possible for all concerned to have a reasonable discussion.

6. Have the courage to ask appropriate questions when you are not clear. Go on a ‘research’ mission. Every time you need to clarify, and you do not-for lack of courage, or the perception that you do not have the right-you give away your personal power. Clarity about your work and goals is important to your advancement and career. Find out what you need to know to do your job to your highest ability.

7. Use your imagination and power of visualization to create an atmosphere in which you want to live, work, and share with others. Your brain does not know the difference between your imagination and reality. Therefore your ability to visualize what you want for yourself is the most valuable asset you have. Your brain and your spirit are doing their best to give you what you want. The responsibility to create success in all of your achievements falls squarely on your shoulders.

Any one of these seven steps will help you on your way to becoming more confident. Congratulate yourself for each small step you achieve. Learn to leave out the self-critic, and give yourself what you need to live your life fully and confidently.

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Dr. Meribeth Dayme, Ph.D, is a personal performance coach, energy healer, and public speaking consultant known for her expertise in the function and use of the human voice and presentation. She is an author, a consultant in business and the performing arts, and former university professor of singing and anatomy. An experienced seminar leader, and public speaker, her books include: Creating Confidence, and The Performer’s Voice, a comprehensive text on the voice for anyone wanting to speak or sing well. Awarded the Van Lawrence Fellowship in 2001 for contributions to the field of voice by the Voice Foundation and in 2000, the Human Communication International Award for contributions to communication skills.

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Having the ability to have children is a gift. It isn’t enough to simply feed and clothe a child because this is already part of the responsibilities of parents.

One of the most significant jobs of parents is to be able to build self-worth in a child. This can permit the person to succeed in the future regardless of the career selected.

Since youngsters look up to the oldsters as role models, it is only best to start from the very top. Plenty of these people have to work for a job to put food on the table. When the topic of work comes around and the kids are present, it is always best to think and say something positive so that the youngsters will inherit the same attitude when it comes to school.

It’s also a brilliant idea to help children with homework to help them in understanding better. To make sure that everything is correct, folks should also double check to help the child earn a better grade.

You may help build your kid’s self-esteem by getting him into sports. It would not hurt to try something new like football or basketball which are team sports that will foster teamwork and friendship.

Purchasing a mini court or a goal and having this installed at home is good if the kid isn’t doing as well as others. You can give your kids the additional practice wanted to make them better at their game by playing with them and having a great time in the midst.

Not everyone excels in sports. Good thing your youngster can turbo-charge self-esteem by taking part in other stuff. There are music lessons using varied instruments and art classes using paint, oil or charcoal. Who knows this may be where your kid’s enthusiasm lies?

There is another way to lift the child’s self-worth. This involves doing something that hasn’t ever been done before while spending some special time. Father and child can go thru a different bike trail in the woods or have mom and daughter bake a few goodies in the kitchen.

There’s a chance the group could get lost or the things that come out in the cooker are burned. The point is, the kid will not know what will occur without trying and part of self esteem is being able to take a risk and becoming a better person irrespective of what happens in the final analysis.

When this has been developed, this is the time the kid should be permitted to make some selections. Parents should be supportive without reference to the result but should give words of caution and knowledge.

Of course, there are hazards worth taking and there are others that aren’t worth it. Knowing the difference between what’s wrong or right and being able to understand and weigh the effects is another critical lesson in life.