Allow me to begin with a simple illustration of how ‘low self esteem’ feels like.

An eight year old boy told his mother one day,” Mummy, I’ve done studying Math. I think I’m not going to make it.”

The mother, obviously concerned with the statement said,” Son, why are you saying this? You should be more positive about this test…”

With a weary look on his face, the boy finally musters all his might and told the mother,”Ok Mummy. I’m positive about this test. I’m positive that I WILL fail the test!”

Did you ‘feel’ the boy’s low self esteem? Even if this illustration were too simplistic, the message was not: low self esteem is devastating. So here is 3 tips you can immediately apply to beat low self esteem.

Tip 1: Pause, and think,” How did I manage this successfully last time?”

Low self esteem is an emotion. And it took place subconsciously. It is proven through extensive Psychological research such as in the field of Neuro Linguistic Programming, it is possible to control emotion by interrupting its pattern with conscious ‘emotional-related’ question, like Tip 1.

It is good to know that subconscious mind respond to conscious mind, and for the question above, subconscious mind will search the database for previously successful experience. The outcome of it? It will evoke the same emotional response it used to have. In this case, it’s confidence (“I’ve successfully handled this before.”).

Low self esteem beaten immediately.

Tip 2: Drop whatever that you are doing

It is likely that you will produce the same response of low self esteem if you continue with your current course of action. The better way to handle this, immediately, is to stop whatever you are doing and to take different action.

For instance, if studying math lower your self esteem because you seem to make mistakes every step of the way then stop! Take a nap. Go out and take a brisk walk. Anything. As long as you don’t just sit and crank your head try to figure out everything.

Tip 3: Pay attention to your physic.

‘What is your body tries to tell you?’

I was provoked by one of my trainers during a session. She challenged me, “Grin from ear to ear, round up your eyes, jump up and down, and try to feel sad. Can you ‘feel’ it?” I have to confess that it was harder than trying to find a needle in a haystack.

So, whenever you look down, your eyes glaze left and right looking for exit or you speak extra fast just to let everything out, pause. Raise your chin up. Look at the person in the eyes (don’t stare though), ask question and respond to the question one at a time. Can you experience low self esteem if you did all these?

These are three tips I personally use myself whenever I’m facing with situation that has the potential to push me to experience low self esteem. What I like the most about these tips is that, I’m in total control in using them. No outside apparatus or special condition needed before I begin using them. That’s a big help because I can never tell when those situations will pay me a visit.

‘Always be prepared.’

Can you imagine having a surefire insurance against low self esteem which you have total control over it can do to your motivation, and performance, be it personal or business? What else can you achieve if you have higher self esteem? You can choose to use tips on how to have higher self esteem, and hide your low self confidence area until it becomes unbearable. Or you can beat low self esteem and raise your esteem level along the way. Which one works best for you? And if you want another 3 effective tips to immediately beat low self esteem, you can find it at: http://beatlowselfesteem.wordpress.com

By small and simple things, great things are accomplished. No need to look for the magic software or the magic quick-fix that is expensive. Sometimes the smallest and simplest method will have a greater impact on your self-esteem that a $5000 seminar with Anthony Robbins.
1. Eat healthy food.
People spend thousands and even millions of dollars trying to get in good shape and loose weight. And they fool themselves when they think that a particular diet or pill is the miracle. They fool themselves because they know these are only quick fixes (if it actually works) but they try them anyway, hoping that maybe, with some luck, it will last.
First, eat 5 times a day, healthy and balanced meals. Get rid of sodas and drink water or nutritional shakes. I challenge you, for the next 30 days, to get rid of all the sodas you have in your house. Eat the same as you do but without soda. You’ll be amazed at the simplicity of this method but just drinking water instead of soda or even milk at every meal will give you more energy and you will see a big difference in your waist.

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The Short List to Overcoming Low Self-Esteem

Extensive studies show that less than 15 % of us have a sufficiently healthy level of self-esteem that allows us to live happy, prosperous, abundant, and harmonious lives.

The source of our low self-esteem is different for every person. Some of the common causes of deficient self-esteem levels are unproductive interpretations of well-intentioned educational experiences that we received during our childhood. While the damage may have occurred long ago for most of us, we continue to live an unproductive pattern in alignment with the faulty beliefs and associations that we made during the process whereby our self-esteem became diminished.

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The best way to improve your life and earn the respect of others is to improve your self-esteem. This is not a very difficult task. All that it needs is good guidance. Here are ten tips that can happen when you improve your self–esteem.

1. You should surround yourself with people who are positive and supportive, and shun friends who are cynical and negative. This will generate a huge swell of positive feelings in you. You will respect yourself more, and your self-esteem will grow.

2. You should be clear about what you want to achieve in life. Set goals, and work for their achievement. To make your task easier, break your main goal into several smaller goals which are relatively easier to achieve. This will make the task of reaching your main goals seem easier. It will also give you a feeling of satisfaction whenever you achieve one of the smaller goals.

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