With the start of a new year, how about setting a goal, as one of your main goals, to boost your self esteem? The reason why I am suggesting this is because when you feel good about yourself, you are more confident in your own abilities to achieve whatever you want. The greater your self confidence is, the more successful you are likely to be in the rest of the goals that you set for yourself.

Do you find yourself having such thoughts often?

1. I can’t do anything.
2. I will never be good at it anyway; no matter how hard I try.
3. I’m born unlucky.
4. No one believes I can do this.
5. I’m no good at doing this task.
6. Others are brighter than me.
7. I am stupid.
8. I will never be as good as somebody else.

If you do, then be aware that these thoughts are doing you no good. How you feel about yourself is based on the person you think you are. You can have positive beliefs that strengthens you or negative beliefs that tear you down. A weak sense of identity invariably results in a poor attitude, difficulty in assertiveness and an inability to cope well under stress.

When you do goal setting, you need to be able to visualize that you are able to achieve your goals. You do not want to set goals that are too easy nor would you want to set goals that you do not feel possible to achieve. You must believe that you can have all that you need to make your goals a reality. Unfortunately, if you have a low self esteem, your negative subconscious thinking will sabotage your intent in reaching your goals.

With a low self esteem, you will find that you tend to give up easily, every time when you hit upon challenges along the way. Nothing is ever one hundred smooth. How you deal with challenges depends very much on your attitude. If you start to question your abilities, you are unlikely to be able to succeed.

So it is best that you find ways to boost your self esteem first. If you make a commitment in addressing your low feelings about yourself, then achieving your other goals will be much easier.

A strong self confidence can be nurtured in a child and encouraged by parents and caregivers. When children feel good about who they are and what they can achieve; they grow up to be confident, happy adults who believe in what they can do to improve themselves.

However, it is never too late to work on building good self-esteem. Hence, for goal setting this year, make it a point to include this as one of your aims. Make a note to give yourself credit for every little achievement or success that you achieve. Celebrate your wins! Take time off to nurture yourself and know that you deserve it!

Evelyn Lim publishes tips about using self help tools for the law of attraction to work. She strongly advocates wealth consciousness in favor over poverty consciousness, for overall success. For more of her articles, please visit http://www.AttractionMindMap.com

Self-esteem is the core of your personality and, in my opinion, your most important success tool. Self-esteem is the person you really see when you look in the mirror. The healthier your self-esteem, the greater your power to succeed, thrive and enjoy true happiness.
Here are five reasons for making and taking time to nurture your self-esteem:
1. Your self-esteem is the foundation for your behavior.

How you act and react to the “things” that happen in life come from how you see yourself fitting into the world. The healthier your self-esteem, the less you tend to overreact to the “things” that happen. Your reactions to the “things” in life can be traced back to how you feel about yourself as a worthy and deserving person.

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There is a commonly held — but false — belief that it takes many years of struggling and hard work to build confidence. In reality, nothing could be further from the truth. Confidence is not something one gains by “working at it,” or studying their behavior and mannerisms over many years. Confidence is the product of the subconscious mind, and can be improved in the blink of an eye — assuming you use the right techniques.
The problem is, many people assume that confidence comes from simply working harder at being confident. This would make sense if your level of confidence and self-esteem was determined by your conscious mind — but it’s not.

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Teenagers are characterized by few prominent qualities such as energetic, passionate, and curious. It is pitiful to see them bogged down by low self esteem thus limiting their ability to express those qualities. For certain cases, expressing those qualities are seen as rebellious, harsh, and inconsiderate. No doubt about that. But that is a different story.

We are more interested to address the issue of low self esteem because of the potential damages it could cause, specifically to teenagers, and society at large.

If a teenager suffer inner-imbalance, which often manifest by restlessness, obsessive behaviors; not accepting him or herself, and lost self respect, often time, the damages to self esteem are cumulative, and one fine day, if they become unbearable, the whole suppressed emotions just erupt like Krakatoa. But all these are avoidable.

Here are 3 simple steps teenagers can take to beat low self esteem.

Step 1: Get to the bottom of it.

Low self esteem has it root somewhere. Based on many proven Psychological research, most of the time it can be traced back to childhood, which is just a few years before teen age. And because everything seems like yesterday, identifying and then isolating the prime cause is crucial. There could be hundreds of causes for low self esteem but which one is the main culprit?

This is done based on a simple fact that when the big issue is solved, the smaller one is indirectly solved. It is as simple as that. And this paves the way to…

Step 2: Isolate and take appropriate action.

When this article was written, I imagined a teenager read it. As a teenager, I realized that technical jargon, formality, and concepts steer them away. And I want to avoid that. So, for step number two, after talking to a few teens friend of mine, I decided to include this step.

It is easier just to refer to an authority figure right after you got Step 1 figured out but knowing the spirit of teenagers, I know they want to everything on their own first. After they done trying and stuck, then and only then, they will ask for help.

I agree with their action but not fully agree. I will save the argument for later but for now, for the majority of independent teen spirits, do these:

* Isolate the prime suspect from Step 1.
* Put it under intense interrogation. You do the questioning. See whether it is the real culprit.
* Decide on action plan and just execute it. Erase the memory, seek different experience to offset the low self esteem ‘inducing’ experience, or simply go to Step 3

Step 3: Set up your support system.

Now, support system, at your level, must include these groups of people because no group can be everywhere all the time. But you need constant, never ending support because those painful low self esteem triggers might be lurking just around the corner. And that means anywhere, anytime.

So here they are:

* Parents. I know. They could be the main culprit for your low self esteem. If that is the case, find figures who can take the role of your biological parents. Many successful cases showed that working with non-biological related figures had higher success rate. Give it a shot.
* Siblings. Same goes with this group. Parents and siblings are important to support you when you are at home. If you do not go to boarding school that is because at boarding school, the next group of people are more important, and they are your…
* Peers. And they are important even if you do not go to boarding school. You are most likely to spend more time with them compared to other group so make sure they support your low self esteem beating effort. And in school, there is another important group…
* Teachers/Counselors. But bear in mind, for this particular group, their effort could be easily diluted due to other commitment. They make an important part of your guide and support but do not depend on them entirely. And without leaving the most important part of your support system (I save the best for last)…
* YOU. Yes, you! Out of all people who should take the biggest responsibility to beat low self esteem, I would say, you are that person. Don’t take it too hard. You can easily achieved this by using simple reminder system for example notes in your wallet or purse, notes on your desktop or laptop, and maybe a simple recorded messages on your hand phone.

Remember, it is not,” If I can I will” but it should read,” If I WILL, I can!”

If you will just take the first step to beat low self esteem by identifying the main culprit…

If you will just take the second step to isolate and plan your action to beat low self esteem…

If you will just take the third step to set your support system…

You CAN beat low self esteem. Yes, YOU can.

Many complex psychological behaviors of today’s teenagers like ran amok, revenge, or even killing another soul, have their causes link back some form of rejection, disown, and disrespect. Rejection for example, if taken to the extreme, has lead to many sad cases of murder which often involve innocent parties. And rejection is an offspring of low self esteem: the feeling of not belonging. Beat low self esteem, beat rejection. Find out advance practical steps a teenager can take to beat low self esteem here:
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