An old Chinese saying says: (in Chinese Pinyin) Ren kao yi zhuang, fo kao jin zhuang (Translation by meaning) Fine feather makes find bird. It also means that people are usually judged by what he or she is wearing.
Although it is true in some cases, it ignored one very important thing- the inner personal image which decided by people’s mind and soul. It can be told by every movement and every blink whether the person is confident, honest, kind, generous or not. I always heard someone saying that he didn’t trust the salesman. Not because that sales person was not wearing a suit and tie. It’s because of his unsuccessful inner personal image. How to build a successful personal image so that people will trust you and like you the moment they saw you?

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“If you had a brain, you’d take it out and play with it” were my father’s words to me as I was growing up. This wasn’t a compliment or encouragement of my questioning nature. Through my early years, my self-esteem was low for a neuro-typical child. As Yoda would
say, “Devastated, I was, from years of deep emotional abuse.” After finally realizing that I couldn’t be “that bad”, in my early 30′s I sought help through a self-esteem building group. We shared stories and together began the slow road of healing by using certain, carefully chosen techniques.
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How To Build A Child’s Self Esteem
It’s often been said that children learn what they live. So if you’re looking for a place to start helping your child build positive self esteem and self value, then you should show them your positive sense of self and strong self esteem. Be positive when you speak about yourself and highlight your strengths. This will teach your child that it’s okay to be proud of their talents, skills and abilities.

Your child also benefits greatly from honest and positive praise. Find something about them to praise each day. You could even give your child a task you know they can complete and then praise them for a job well done after they’re finished. Show your child that positive acts merit positive praise.

When your child’s feeling sad, angry or depressed, communicate openly, honestly and patiently with them. Listen to them without judging or criticizing. They may not fully understand why they feel the way they do, so the opportunity to communicate with you about it may be what’s needed to help them sort through a difficult situation.

Suggest positive behaviors and options as solutions, and make sure to leave that door of communication open so they know the next time they feel badly, they can come to you for help and know that you won’t judge or punish them for how they’re feeling.

Teach your child the importance of setting goals and developing a plan to meet that goal and complete that task. Small projects are the best to start off with in the beginning. Ensure that it’s an appropriate task for your child, and not too complex. Don’t only give praise at the end of the project, but praise their accomplishments during the project as well.

Most importantly, tell your child “I love you” each and every day – many times throughout the day, in fact. When they’ve behaved badly, remind yourself that it’s not them you don’t like, only their behavior. Tuck short, sweet notes in their lunchboxes or coat pockets, or even send them a card in the mail. Soon, they’ll learn to say
"I love you" just as easily and honestly in return.

by Mike Mansfield
Mike is Author and webmaster at Directory Articles.
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There is no question that the early years of childhood affect life in adulthood. The role then of a parent is critical in developing self confidence and self esteem.
Is it Self-Esteem or Self-Confidence or what lies in between?

I was driven towards looking to the self-confidence and self-esteem in ourselves on a deeper level. How do we evaluate the two?

On a human level and perhaps whilst growing up, our religion, the influence of the culture of where we grew up in and our parents, are all factors that influence and contribute to our level of self-confidence and self-esteem.

How do we define those fancy words we consistently hear, and where do we begin to determine the effect of them?

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