Does Age Affect Our Self Esteem?

I was always considered a very well centered person in my younger days. In fact , I was voted in my class, the person most likely to succeed in life.

I was blessed with good looks, an ability to make others feel good about themselves and a very settled disposition. This helped me enormously to be the most popular girl in school, get the best jobs in my working life. I seemed to get promotions easily, and was always sought out at company dinners or dances, by the opposite sex.

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Accepting Yourself Unconditionally

Self-acceptance begins in infancy, with the influence of your parents and siblings and other important people.

How Are You Treated By Others?
Self-acceptance begins in infancy, with the influence of your parents and siblings and other important people. Your own level of self-acceptance is determined largely by how well you feel you are accepted by the important people in your life.

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Why Self Esteem Matters

A number of years ago I worked for one of the UK?s top IT companies — a
global player. We were meeting to discuss a major bid, and the room was filled
with people who didn?t meet often — the most senior managers from a number of
divisions. There were very few middle tier managers in the room, almost
exclusively senior managers who were accustomed to being “top dog”. The
atmosphere in that room was almost tangible. I wanted to bottle the air and
analyse it later — I had never experienced such naked power, and it dawned on
me in that moment that we are almost blind to the status signals we
transmit.

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When Beauty Tries to Compensate For Self Esteem

We all strive for a beautiful and healthy body. This not only makes our
hearts come alive but it keeps us alive and vibrant.
Unfortunately, there are some individuals who strive for beauty for reasons
that not only are unhealthy but which in time actually detract from the over all
attractiveness of the individual. One of the main unhealthy reasons to try and
look beautiful is out of a need for attention or need for validation. Such needs
usually stem from a fear of being alone and this is most often associated with
low self esteem.
Using beauty to try to compensate for low self esteem is like trying to make
your old broken down car attractive with a new paint job in order to get it sold
when the engine no longer works. Sooner or later the truth will come out and any
perceived gains will be lost. In the process there will also come a great deal
of heart ache.
Attractiveness is more than skin deep. It is something that can only emerge
from a fully self respecting and self confident human being. All of this can
only come when an individual truly loves or esteems themselves in every way. Now
many feel this is a distant and unachievable reality so they look for a quik fix
from a good make over. A lot of organizations are making a lot of money feeding
off of the poor self esteem of individuals.
What price do you pay when you buy into such “easy solutions” and pretend to
yourself that this is the road to happiness? Well, what happens is that you go
into a state of denial about what you really feel inside and then these feelings
need to be kept suppressed. Where do they go then? Well, they actually go “into”
your body and turn up sooner or later as some form of emotional or physical
illness.
So in the end you’re left with a reminder of the problem that you tried so
hard to forget. The worst part about all of this is that once the illness stage
emerges the tendency is again to find a quik fix in the form of some medication
or drug prescribed by a physician. Most medications come with numerous
side-effects. Staying on one or more long enough will cause you to likely
experience some of these side-effects. The solution? Well, another medication of
course, and so on.
Now if you are a young person you may think that this is all sounding a bit
too pessimistic. Well my 20 years as a psychiatrist has given me enough
experience to know that this is an ever recurring scenario. I’m presenting it to
you here so that you will reflect carefully on your situation and make a wise
and self respecting decision to take what ever feels like the truly right course
for yourself.
Self esteem is something that can be improved more easily than one thinks
these days, and in the right way. So I challenge you to strive for the true
lasting beauty that can only emerge from a heart that is truly alive and open.
It’s the only way to be truly attractive!
by Nick Arrizza, M.D.
Dr. Nick Arrizza is trained in Chemical Engineering, Business Management
& Leadership, Medicine and Psychiatry. He is a Key Note Speaker, Author,
Stress Management Coach, Peak Performance Coach & Researcher, Specializes in
Life and Executive Performance Coaching, is the Developer of a powerful new tool
called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) that helps build phyiscal, emotional,
mental and spirtual well being by helping to permanently release negative
beliefs, emotions, perceptions and memories. He holds live workshops,
international telephone coaching sessions and international teleconference
workshops on Physical. Emotional, Mental and Spiritual Well Being. Personal URL:

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