How can you build your self esteem? Just our lives are affected by physical laws such as the law of gravity, so there are psycological laws that affect our self esteem and self confidence. This article lays out 8 universal laws that can be tapped into to build self esteem and self confidence. By getting these laws working for you, your self esteem and confidence can increase and improve your lifestyle.
Self Esteem: 8 Universal Laws
The Law of Stuart Smalley
Genuinely strong self-eteem has nothing to do with the Stuart Smalley
character on “Saturday Night Live.” Smalley was played by talk-show host A1
Franken who looked in the mirror to tell himself “You’re good enough,you’re
smart enough, and doggone it, people like you.” This is not the kind of
namby-pamby-feel-good self-esteem we’re talking about.
The Law of Definition
Self-esteem is one of those frequently used terms that we believe we know the
meaning of until we are asked to define it. Most folks define it as the way you
feel about yourself. The problem is feelings can, and often do, change. The
definition I have found most useful of self-esteem is: the strength and power of
your belief in your self.
The Law of Ends vs. Means
While working on increasing your self-esteem, remember it’s just a means to
an end, not the end in and of itself. I’ve known lots of unsuccessful people,
and even people who continually do the wrong thing, and yet they feel good about
themselves. Self-esteem is merely a means to the end if increasing the quality
of life, for yourself and those around you.
The Law of Company
Self-esteem is strongly influenced by the company you keep. Hang around
people with weak self-esteem and yours is likely to be weak as well. And guess
what? Hang around people with strong self-esteem, and yours is likely to
strengthen as well.
The Law of Blame and Accuse
I’ve heard so many people say “My self-esteem is low because I’m too
this/that, I grew up without this/that and this/that has happened to me.” Which
usually leads me to wonder what does a person who is too this/that, grew up
without this/that, and has had this/that happen to them, DO WITH THE REST OF HIS
OR HER LIFE?
The Law of Action
You can learn about self-esteem, read about it, go to seminars, etc., and
nothing will change if you don’t do something with what you learn. In order to
change something, you simply must TAKE ACTION!
The law of NWBG
While NWBG may sound like the name of a rock group, it’s really a fast and
easy way to measure and mprove your self-esteem. In vertical order, write the
letters NWBG, vhich stand for Now-Worst-Best-Goal. Now, on a scale of 1 to 10 (1
is the worst and 10 is the best) rate your self-esteem the way it is Now, the
Worst it has ever been, the Best it has ever been, and the Goal you would like
it to be. This gives you a number next to each of the letters NWBG. If you are
like most folks, Now is higher the Worst. This gives us some important
information:
How did you get from the worst to where you are now? The answers can be key
for further strengthening your selfesteem.
The Law of Higher Math
Now we will do a little higher math in order to strengthen your self-esteem.
Take the number for your Goal (let’s say 10) and subtract from it the number for
now (let’s say 4), so it’s 6. So that’s six levels of selfesteem to travel,
which is too big a chunk all at once.
Let’s make it manageable by taking one level at a time. What small, simple
steps can you begin to take immediately to move you from a four to a five? And
then a 5 to a 6, a 6 to a 7, and so on. In this way you can measure your
progress as you go, and rather quickly strengthen your self-esteem.
How’s that for progress?
